My Favorite “Effectivity Tool”

I love “effectivity tools” – anything tangible that not only helps you work more effectively, but also helps you BE more effective. To me an “effectivity tool” is anything that can move you

From THIS:

• Boredom and frustration with some if not all of your work, procrastination, lack of concentration or motivation.
• Being pulled at from multiple directions to the point where you are juggling the best you can and still dropping balls all over the place.
• Getting frustrated with difficult people, reacting in conversations, judging others, or trying to get a point across without being heard, recognized, or respected.
• Spending most of your day doing what has to be done, with so little time left over you are too tired to engage with something you truly enjoy, and you end up zoning out in front of the television, computer, or food.

To THIS:

• You are focused and engaged with whatever is on your “to do” list today.
• When something “comes at you” you can calmly adapt and handle it without having it throw you off or ruin your day.
• In every interaction you have, from a difficult negotiation to a mentoring conversation to a big presentation to a chat with the cashier at the store, you are clear, confident, and have the impact you desire.
• Every day you make progress towards your goals, AND you enjoy spending free time doing what is most important to YOU.

There are all sorts of “tools” out there, from software applications that make life easier, to time management techniques, to models that make it easier to understand and label what is going on in a situation so you can handle it better.

My favorite tools give you three things:

1. A new way to look at a situation or event, so you have more and better information about it.
2. Tips for how to handle a situation or event, so you can get better results.
3. Insight about yourself, so that you change, and as a result, your situations change.

This November, in our “change your beliefs” workshop, I am going to talk about one of my favorite tools. This tool helps you:

1. Notice that you are looking at most situations through the filter of your assumptions, and helps you see the perspectives you hadn’t considered.
2. In situations that upset or anger you, this tool can help you change your emotions to neutral, so that your response is more effective and you get better results.
3. You can also use this tool to identify habitual patterns of seeing situations that no longer serve you, and can help you change entire patterns in your life.

It’s one of the most important tools I’ve used myself, and it has helped me become much more calm and confident in situations that used to worry and embarrass me.

I would love to share the tool with you in our upcoming November 10th workshop. For more information on it, click here.

Hope to see you there!