Giving Feedback: Three Situational Scripts Situation One: Frequent, Brief, and Useful “This is what you did well; this is what you can do to make it better” I like this better than the popular “sandwich” method, because while it’s still positive, it keeps the focus on what can be improved instead of diluting it, and high achievers can use this to constantly better their game. Plus, it gets you... Read More »
Five Tips for Getting Buy in at Work Show them Get them excited about what you want to accomplish by creating an exciting picture of what things will be like when you have succeeded together at making it happen. Talk about what will be different as a result of your success. Choose a few words or a phrase that stand for what you want to accomplish and find a compelling picture to go with it. M... Read More »
Hint: Not what you are actually saying. This could be a problem if you spend much time talking, but here are five tips that will help you get your message across clearly: 1. People listen from the context of their own beliefs. Before you even open your mouth, they already have an idea of who you are, what you think of them, what your agenda is, and what you want from them. Whatever word... Read More »
What will my parents think? What will my boss think? What will my friends think? These are the worries that influence our decisions and cause us the most anxiety. The good news is, most of those judgmental thoughts we fear are illusions. They don’t actually exist, except in our heads. Don’t believe me? Consider this: 1. Most people spend 90% of their time thinking about themselves What problems do... Read More »
Getting a new job is exciting - but now the pressure's on to prove yourself... The first several months of a new job can be incredibly stressful as you work hard to make a good impression and show your new employer that they made a good hiring decision. But sometimes trying too hard can backfire and your efforts end up alienatating the very people you are trying to impress. Here is a story of h... Read More »
The micro-managing boss is especially hard to handle if you are creative, innovative, and want to make a contribution of your own in an organization. But since quite a few people in management positions fit this profile, chances are you will end up with one at some point in your career. Here are some tips to help you get the space you need to thrive: Read More »
...the girls craved authentic and genuine relationships, but they created plastic relationships based only on niceness and happy feelings, and buried the darker sides of themselves, feeling isolated and misunderstood. The more plastic friendships they struggled to maintain, the fewer real friends they had whom they could trust and be themselves with. Read More »
Nahid takes situations and dilemmas that might otherwise seem overwhelming, and turns them into concepts and ideas that are easy to understand and approach. She distills the abstract into concrete steps that can be implemented quickly. In a sense, it's like she gives you a set of tools. Here's a story of how I used the tools from the Needs Workshop to develop a stronger working relationship with... Read More »
Do you remember the last time someone pushed your buttons? That emotional reaction comes from having a need that isn’t being met, and this is important because almost every single ridiculous thing that happens between people happens because someone has a need that isn’t being met. If you make it your business to understand how needs work, you have the power to break through the barriers and main... Read More »
"Effectivity Tools" can help you move from frustration, distraction, confusion, and exhaustion to clarity, focus, productivity and relaxation. They do this by giving you a tangible way to see things differently, do things differently, and get better results. In November we are going to begin work with my favorite "effectivity tool". Here's more... Read More »