Almost all difficult communication issues can be improved by understanding how to set and maintain clean boundaries. Having clean boundaries in a relationship means that each person takes full responsibility for his own thoughts, feelings, and behavior.
This sounds simple, but if you are currently avoiding a difficult conversation, is it partly because you don’t know how to have that conversation without “causing” the other person to have negative thoughts, feelings, or behavior?
And, at the other end of the spectrum, if you are in the midst of a relationship conflict, whether it’s personal or professional, are you blaming someone, at least partly, for your thoughts, feelings, or behavior?
In our on-line coaching program we have a few classes dedicated to helping you set better boundaries. Here is one of them. Keep in mind this is part of a larger program, so when you hear me talking I may be referencing prior classes.
Here is a link to the handout: Handout – Relationship Boundaries
Here is the audio class, which is approximately 18 minutes: Audio Class – Relationship Boundaries
Setting boundaries is easier said than done, but hopefully this will give you a good start. If you’d like to get some coaching on setting stronger boundaries in your work or personal relationships, send an e-mail requesting a coaching consultation (20-30 minute phone call) and we’ll get you on the calendar right away.