Ever have a great plan and then want to punch yourself three weeks later because you haven’t stayed true to it? If so, you aren’t alone – and the good news is, success may be closer than you think, especially if you keep these five simple steps in mind!
5 Steps to Assist You in Forming a New Habit:
- Understand that there is a process to change. Any behavior that isn’t already an automatic part of your routine is going to require extra thinking and energy to act on. If you have a full day and no extra energy available, you will likely stick to doing things that don’t require anything extra from you.
- Be reassured that you don’t have to do something every single day to build a habit. If you have a bad habit think about it. Did you just suddenly start doing the habit full force – or did you gradually fall into it? It’s the same with good habits. As long as you keep your intention in mind, you’ll be more likely to jump in and act any time you have the energy, and the more you do it, the easier it will get.
- It’s better to take smaller steps more frequently than waiting until you have a huge block of time to take a big step. Frequency builds habits. If you make something easier it will take less energy. If it takes less energy you will feel “able” to do it more often. If you do it more often it will start to get easier. If it starts to get easier it will take less energy. Once you’ve taken these smaller steps, you can always increase your efforts. Better to do one push up per day then go to the health club once per week. Better to make five calls per day than wait until you have time to make fifty.
- Criticizing yourself for not sticking to your plan will make it harder to stick to your plan: We grow up thinking that beating ourselves up gets us motivated, but think of the last time someone criticized you. Did it energize you or drain you? You need energy to act. If you criticize yourself you will lose energy. Think about it.
- Any drama you have about your plan will likely sabotage it. If you need to prove something by succeeding at your plan…or if you feel like you will absolutely DIE if you fail… if you hate yourself and the only thing that will make you remotely worthy is achieving X, Y, or Z… it’s almost a guarantee you won’t stick to your plan. If this is you, all is not lost – you just have to unravel the drama, which takes a bit of introspection, journaling, or personal development work.
These five steps will help you stick to any plan and create the successful outcome you want! In addition, you can enlist the help of a friend or someone else you respect, who could act as a “thought partner” or accountability partner. A simple check-in once a week, coupled with small steps and the right attitude can make all the difference in your results.
At Aspyrre, we also offer several options to help you get “unstuck” on any of those more challenging changes, or long-term changes you want to make. We offer a no obligation, 20-minute complimentary consultation for new clients, if you’d like to discuss your needs. Simply contact me via email, and I can schedule a time for us to discuss your situation.
Meanwhile, we appreciate any comments or feedback, and always love to hear how you’re doing on your personal and professional journey!